Have read and heard above quotation number of times from number of people. But in practical situation is it possible..???
I guess… No..!!
Today I will not be taking full coverage of this topic. I will be just talking about a small portion of Expectation vs Disappointment. I will be covering the expectation of parents and disappointment from children. I won’t be writing about the kids and young parents, I will be writing about young children and old parents.
When I say young children that means they are mature enough to take decisions. They are mature enough for understand every aspects of relation. They are mature enough to deal with critical situations in home.
When I say old parents that means who are in 3rd phase of their life. They have done all for your born and brought up. They have nurtured you in the best way. They almost provided you everything that you wanted in your life. They took loan for your education. They sold their property for your higher degree. The father, he doesn’t buy new suits for every occasion, so that he can cut down the cost and save some money for your fees. The mother she always save some money from her house hold expenses, so that she can provide you that money whenever you need some money for partying with your friends and your father refused for same. They bought you a bike when you were in college. They bought some property/House/ land, thinking that you don’t feel burden once you complete your education. So, that you can directly start your new life and you won’t struggle much in buying some property etc. They think so much in depth that they almost did everything for your future life also.
Now, their age is more than 60-65 Years. Now their health has started deteriorating. Their hands and legs are weak. Their eye sight is not 6/6 now. Their vision is poor. They shiver while walking. So, they need support of something. They can’t walk alone in night. Sometimes they fall down due to darkness in night. They are not healthy for cooking, cleaning, washing etc. They start feeling tired so soon. They need rest. They are tired of struggle of their life. They start feeling light that they have done everything best for their children and their children must be happy. Life was so busy for them and their children also, because they were struggling each bit of their time for their children’s best education and lifestyle and children were busy in their education and lifestyle.
But now they are happy, that everything is gone now. They have done all for their children; they children are well educated and respectable personality in society. They may be some Gazetted officer, a businessman or may be an engineer or manager. They have achieved high position in their life. Over this success of their children, parents are so happy and proud. Now, parents want to spend some quality time with their children because now they are free from all responsibilities. They want love, time, respect from their children because that’s how they have invested their life into their children. So they want something in return and that is only TIME, LOVE, and RESPECT.
But children got posted for their job to some different locations. Due to which they are unable to stay with their parents. They leave their parents behind and start a new life with their own family.
When I say own family, that means wife/Husband and kids. They got busy with their new life with their immediate family. Unfortunately, their parents are not part of their immediate family now.
Still, parents are happy because they see their children happy with their own family. They smiles to see them happy but from inside they feel like crying because they don’t see any space for them in their immediate family. Parents, they just live alone in an old house. They cook for themselves, they wash their cloths. They clean their house. But still they have so much free time because now at this age they don’t work. They stay at home. They go for a walk so that they can pass their time. They sit in a group of people or neighbor so that they don’t feel lonely. They listen radio in night so that they can keep themselves engaged.
One day parents are not well. They fell ill. They need treatment and doctor. Children come to see them but there is conflict that who will take them to doctor? Elder son or younger son..?
To clear out the conflict they decide that elder one will take to doctor and pay all expenses and younger one will take care of them and take them to their home post treatment until they are not well again.
Father/mother in her bed crying, think had I ever thought of dividing my responsibilities when I was upbringing my both sons..? Had I ever pay one’s fee and next time other fee..?? If both were not well… Then had I ever taken only one of them to doctor..??
Anyhow son took his parents to his home. The home which was provided by his parents. Now it’s his home. In presence of his ill mother/Father, his wife thinks that her kids are not safe. They might get infection due to ill mother/Father. His wife’s freedom is lost because she can’t go out anytime. His kids thinks that their grandparents are not stylish enough, They wear traditional cloths, what if anyone of their friends come to home and see their grandparents like that.
How strange…!!! Nobody is bothered about their health, loneliness, pain, struggle through which they have gone throughout their life. Everyone is bothered about infection, hygiene, being stylish, backwardness etc.
Poor parents, Next day early in morning they pack their bag and come back to their home. That old home where they have spent their entire life and most probably they will end up their life there.
I don’t understand how this quotation is correct “No Expectation No Disappointment”?
Is it wrong that parents do expect small amount of time, love and respect from their children …????
Is it right that children disappoint them in every aspect …????
~ Jyoti Yadav